Keep your goals to yourself – the road might be lonely one but definitely worth it
Have you ever failed reaching your goal? if so – have you thought why it has happened? Well I have and I tell you people that this is definitely linked with our inner goal-getter. As soon as you announce your goal to the world or even to some closest people seems that happens everything (even impossible) to get in your way to prevent you from reaching it. So what you (me) do? you give up. Of course it deludes us and kills our self esteem every time you don’t reach it and makes harder and harder to get motivated again and set once more a new goal.
I have really high self motivation and drive and it’s hard to stop me (that’s when all the impossible things happen). Now and then wake up with my goals scattered and being nowhere near them. Of course it’s frustrating because you have 2 options – give up or start again. I always (after some wining and thinking the world is against me) go for second option.
This morning I read an article about goals in Virgin and it got me! Indeed! When you say your goals/dreams to someone they are less likely to come true! It makes complete sense now because every time I publicly (also here) announce something – it is probable to not happen. This article really made me realise this.
Ted Silvers have explained his idea further in his TED talk
“When you tell someone your goal and they acknowledge it, psychologists have found that it’s called a social reality – the mind is almost tricked into thinking that the goal is already done. And then because you’ve felt that satisfaction, you’re less motivated to do the actual hard work necessary.”
Here is the talk
Wise words. Indeed, wise words! So today as in motivational Monday I challenge you to set up a new goal or reset an old one (I go for this one), make a plan and and start executing it right now without making big fuss around it! Believe in it and go for it! Let’s do it!
When it will materialize – drop me a line or post a comment!
Happy Monday!
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